How to help a man's suffering from domestic violence?

 Have you ever heard, seen, or felt that a man is a victim of domestic violence? A home must be a safe place for all members. Also, everybody feels free to talk about their concerns, wishes, or programs without judgment or humiliation. Additionally, a home must be a trustful truthful faithful place and sincere members help each other. But some people do not receive that support, also, tolerate an inequity in their imbalanced life. They're suffering from domestic violence.

What Shape Does Domestic Violence Have?

Domestic violence may appear in the shape of:

Insulting

Sexual abuse

Economic abuse

Verbal abuse

Cultural violence

Emotional violence

Physical violence

Neglect 

This recording makes me weep for Johnny Depp. "Tell the world, Johnny, tell them, Johnny Depp, I, a man, I'm a victim too of domestic violence. And see how many people believe or side with you".

Mistreatments and abuses are not acceptable and tolerable at all! Johnny Depp said he's a victim of domestic violence!

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What Should You Do?

Although some men around the world have experienced domestic violence, they are embarrassed to tell others. Some of them prefer to stay silent! In other words, they select being under torture rather than others realizing what is happening to their physical/mental health! Unfortunately, it could back to some cultural myths such as "men don't cry", "men are enough strong to ask for help", be a man, not weak such a woman (for this group man= strong and asking for help= weakness)! These sentences are not facts. The fact is don't let others put you down. Don't be shy! Ask for professional help. How? You can get an appointment with a therapist, talk online with a therapist, or different countries have helplines that you can access to them. Just get rid of being under pressure.

Why Do You Choose an Abusive Partner?

 If you like to marry and before that: 

Don't rush: It would be better if you could have a chance to know each other. To know each other you can try these: Have a conversation about your backgrounds, interests, and wishes. Have a conversation about your family and visit them at the right time.

Ask a professional therapist who can help you in matching your character. A Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) would be able to evaluate and diagnose emotional disorders and behavioral issues, and a wide range of relationship dynamics within the context of marriage. If your future partner has a mental issue you have no responsibility to rebuild it. Some of them have problems from their childhood that must be recovered by an expert. 

If you're married 

Admit to yourself that you are being emotionally abused and acknowledge the damage you’ve experienced. why you have put up with the abuse. Pay attention to your feelings. Ask a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) to help you. The therapist would be able to evaluate, diagnose, and treat mental and emotional disorders behavioral issues, and a wide range of relationship dynamics within the context of couples, marriage, and family systems.

 Keep Positive, Keep Strong

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How to Consider Men's Mental Health Problems?

Do you think men's mental issues matter? During my work on improving youth mental health, I realised that a calm and safe atmosphere is connected to parents' good psychological situation. Some parents have mental problems that must not remain unsolved. Today, I like to talk about men's mental issues. If you are a man this article would be helpful. 

 What Are Signs of Men's Mental Health Issues?

Research showed many physical issues such as heart disease or high pressure emerged from mental issues. Therefore, it is important to know more about mental illness-caused factors. For example, you may need to ask for psychological help if you do not enjoy your life/ your work, feeling low moods, depression, or anxiety. Also, other signs of mental problems can be illustrated as significant tiredness, sleeping problems/ sleeping too much, extreme feelings of guilt, worthlessness, changes in appetite, helplessness, or hopelessness.

Unfortunately, existing common myths among different countries, like men don't cry, keep secrets, don't tell anybody, don't ask for professional help like women, men are enough strong to cope with everything and what if others realise I couldn't manage my problems on my own, caused to live with mental illnesses, consequently, unsolved mental issues usually cost more and more pain.

According to the World Health Organisation (WHO, 2016), 800,000 people around the world die by suicide every year. It would be more likely true to say those people who kill themselves, have had mental issues. Although sometimes men have fewer mental issues in comparison to women, in some countries the rate of suicide among men has been higher than women. However, statistically more mental illnesses among females in comparison to males could be related to their different reactions to emotional issues. For example, men in comparison to women have more substance misuse while they have emotional issues. Furthermore, it seems sometimes men’s mental issues still lingered as a secret, because of rejection to exist. For example, there are silent emotional issues among some men. Some men refuse indicators that show emotional difficulties or may feel shameful if they like to express their negative moods. Therefore, unsolved mental problems may cause to attempt suicide by those men. 

Generally, men have relatively low levels of asking for psychological help for their difficulties. Therefore, their mental problems may cause expanded issues such as more mental/ physical pain or suicidal behaviors. Furthermore, some men stop being logical in coping with their emotional issues whilst they might think that only women are struggling for help. Therefore, you may not be aware of their mental illnesses. 

Which Problems Could Lead You to Mental Issues?

Different issues among people may lead them to mental issues. I like to mention 2 factors here. Generally, people with personal issues such as relationship collapsing or low employment status can be vulnerable.  

Relationship Collapsing

Sometimes ending a relationship with a partner could be a factor that judges themselves or makes them feel isolated. Therefore, instead of liveliness and being involved with others, destroying this sense; not trusting others could make them feel a lack of support networks in the family. For instance, some men with threatening behavior of suicide have shown the smallest amount of trust in their spouse, family, and friends. Then a lack of good communication with a partner or family may make them feel that they are not supported. Furthermore, some males with social matters have had difficulties with their marriage and spousal pressure as divorce could lead them to live alone or may be a reason to stimulate some men to feel low mood, depression, or anxiety.

Employment Status

It would be more likely to illustrate that the detrimental effects of unemployment and weak socioeconomic status may lead some men to have emotional issues. For instance, as a result of poverty, some unemployed men have to encounter difficulties, such as discourteous, refusal by others, and unsuitable ways of living. Or in the conclusion of poor socioeconomic status, they may have negative moods such as embarrassment. In contrast, professional occupation males with more knowledge and skillful careers, such as engineering and science vocations have had suicide half of the general average of men. 

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Solutions

You may have atypical reactions to cope with your issues such as not being connected with others or have negative feelings such as stress, isolation, or hopelessness. On the other hand, you may have untreated emotional problems from your earlier age. It would be more beneficial if you started actions towards improving your mental health. Additionally, you may desire to do not to demonstrate your issues and your feelings. For example, indicators are refused by some males whilst facing emotional issues. To obtain the most outcomes towards fewer men’s mental issues, you need to collaborate. It would be more likely to be successful to treat emotional problems amongst men if the perspectives and feelings of shame changed by the public. For instance, it would be more likely to save men’s lives if they could learn that seeking help psychologically does not account for a weak point.

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Conclusion

Exploring factors that cause men’s mental issues, would be helpful to decrease it. Today I tried to address the main reasons for men's mental issues like collapsing relationships and employment status. You may feel reluctant to demand professional support because you are encouraged not to show your emotions. Moreover, you may not request help for your problems neither experts nor close people around. Because of your unreal thoughts as do not ask for help as a woman, you may lead yourself to have more physical or mental pain. To prevent mental issues, it would be essential to provide supportive environments in societies, homes, and work areas, also, fight against unreal beliefs.

    I'm here to help you heal and turn your pain into gain. You are not alone in this journey to feel calm, hope and power. Send me an email right away to begin your well-being journey.

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