Have you ever heard, seen, or felt that a man is a victim of domestic violence? A home must be a safe place for all members. Also, everybody feels free to talk about their concerns, wishes, or programs without judgment or humiliation. Additionally, a home must be a trustful truthful faithful place and sincere members help each other. But some people do not receive that support, also, tolerate an inequity in their imbalanced life. They're suffering from domestic violence.
What Shape Does Domestic Violence Have?
Domestic violence may appear in the shape of:
Insulting
Sexual abuse
Economic abuse
Verbal abuse
Cultural violence
Emotional violence
Physical violence
Neglect
This recording makes me weep for Johnny Depp. "Tell the world, Johnny, tell them, Johnny Depp, I, a man, I'm a victim too of domestic violence. And see how many people believe or side with you".
Mistreatments and abuses are not acceptable and tolerable at all! Johnny Depp said he's a victim of domestic violence!
What Should You Do?
Although some men around the world have experienced domestic violence, they are embarrassed to tell others. Some of them prefer to stay silent! In other words, they select being under torture rather than others realizing what is happening to their physical/mental health! Unfortunately, it could back to some cultural myths such as "men don't cry", "men are enough strong to ask for help", be a man, not weak such a woman (for this group man= strong and asking for help= weakness)! These sentences are not facts. The fact is don't let others put you down. Don't be shy! Ask for professional help. How? You can get an appointment with a therapist, talk online with a therapist, or different countries have helplines that you can access to them. Just get rid of being under pressure.
Why Do You Choose an Abusive Partner?
If you like to marry and before that:
Don't rush: It would be better if you could have a chance to know each other. To know each other you can try these: Have a conversation about your backgrounds, interests, and wishes. Have a conversation about your family and visit them at the right time.
Ask a professional therapist who can help you in matching your character. A Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) would be able to evaluate and diagnose emotional disorders and behavioral issues, and a wide range of relationship dynamics within the context of marriage. If your future partner has a mental issue you have no responsibility to rebuild it. Some of them have problems from their childhood that must be recovered by an expert.
If you're married
Admit to yourself that you are being emotionally abused and acknowledge the damage you’ve experienced. why you have put up with the abuse. Pay attention to your feelings. Ask a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) to help you. The therapist would be able to evaluate, diagnose, and treat mental and emotional disorders behavioral issues, and a wide range of relationship dynamics within the context of couples, marriage, and family systems.
Keep Positive, Keep Strong
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